The very useful purpose of bad dreams

Meaning of nightmares

  One of the key concepts I teach my student trainers in working with people is to keep asking: “WHY does _____ happen?” I think “WHY” is one of the most powerful words you can use in coaching. Recently, one of my coaching clients, a golf pro, whom I’m helping get over the yips,  was Read More.

How To Get Over Fear Of Failing In Sports

fear of failure

2 simple steps to clear any fear I have often stated to my student trainers that whenever you are in doubt about working with someone and not sure where to go or what to do, you can always ask yourself or the other person:  “Where is the fear in this?” In my experience of working Read More.

Nobody is broken and nobody needs to be fixed

One of the blocks to improved performance for many people, kids and adults alike, is the idea they get in their head that “there’s something wrong with me.” Here’s an example to illustrate this problem that I hear of time and time again… Mike is a dad of a 15-year-old boy, Jake, who plays baseball. Read More.

Deconstructing negative thoughts and thinking

Rabbit on alert

So go with me here.  I will explain here in the video that “Negative thinking” is actually a good thing that we do to help us prevent bad things from happening in our life.   The problem is not that we do “Negative thinking”  but that we do it too much, right? …and it becomes self Read More.

Build Confidence From Scratch – review technique 3 of 12

Ask any athlete or competitor about a time when they were confident before competition and somewhere in the conversation, they will use the term “Feel confident.” Confidence is an emotion which results in a feeling. Emotions are always preceded by thoughts, conscious and/or unconscious. Too many people think that confidence is just something that “happens” Read More.

Podcast #9 – Clear Out Fear of Rejection

Whether it’s: The fear of cold-calling or making new contacts in business or sales. Your kid being afraid to disappoint coaches, parents and teammates. You, afraid to step up and teach your expertise to an audience. Fear of not being accepted by your peers. Fear of sexual rejection. Scared to speak up in your group Read More.

Podcast #8 – How To Build Confidence In Kids (and adults)

By far, the most requested outcome I receive from those I work with is “I want more confidence.”   As with most mental toughness attributes like focus, courage, determination, etc. far too many people are completely unaware that building confidence can be a systematic process not much different than how a golf instructor teaches a beginner Read More.

Podcast #7 – How To Get Over The Fear of Failure

Recently, I was on a coaching call with my mental toughness trainer group teaching them all of my methods and how to do what I do as a business.  When we do these calls, I very much encourage the trainers to ask me questions as I do with clients I work with one-on-one.  I believe Read More.

Confidence-Building Hacks For Kids In Sports, part 1

There is all sorts of controversy about kids sports these days. Should we give them all trophies? Should we push them hard so they learn about how the “real” world works? Parents and coaches are often confused by conflicting advice. The video below is part of a 3-part series to help you assist kids playing Read More.