I have one more tool that is going to help you deal with your difficult emotions and that is what I call, “The AND World”.
What does this mean?
“I can be scared.”
“I can be nervous.”
You can even say that,
“I can be angry.”
You know when you got a bad call or a non call that should’ve been called by the opponent. So anger can sometimes create interference because you are too angry to even play smart. You end up fouling or getting off your strategy of what you are supposed to do out there because all you can think about is getting even with your opponent.
All these difficult emotions are flooded in your body. You’re scared, you’re angry, you’re nervous, and what you can do when you’re in these kinds of chemicals, you just tell yourself,
“Wow, I’m feeling some chemicals AND I’m going out there and kick some butt!”
Another simple way that I explain this mostly for women is that you embrace the
emotions and chemicals. You can’t fight them because it is your own body. The only thing you can do is go with your emotions and not be afraid of them.
So, the great thing about mental game is you could practice this everywhere. So when you get good with being okay with your difficult emotions AND you can still do what you need to do while in those chemicals like,
“I’m very nervous AND I’m going to play the best game of my life while I’m feeling nervous.”
Story of Bill Russell
There’s this one book where there is a list of top level athletes who have performed amazingly when they are most stress, pressured, tensed, tight, worried, and nervous. One story that struck me was the story of Bill Russell. He was the Michael Jordan of basketball in the 50’s and 60’s. Before every game, he would get so tensed, tight, and nervous that he would throw up. After a year, he stopped throwing up in the middle of a season and it turns out, he was having the worst season of his career. All the press was saying that he’s washed up and his career is over. Bill Russell got so uptight about that when it was their championship game, he threw up again. He ended up being MVP for 3-4 years.
The point about this is that you can feel all the difficult emotions AND perform your best. They don’t need to slow you down at all!
I’m Craig Sigl,
Your Mental Toughness Trainer