How To Motivate Your Junior Golfer

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In this article you’ve got some tips of how to motivate your junior golfer. Do you ever experience stubbornness from your junior golfer or teen athlete? HaHaHa…

How do you get across the idea that the mental game is as important as the physical game?

Here is a short video that tells the story of how Craig helped motivate his own junior golfer – his teenage son. It might even get you to laugh…

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It’s the 18th hole and my 15 year old son, AJ walks up to the green.  He takes his time eyeing his ball that is laying about 25 feet from the hole. It’s a double breaker that requires a bit of an uphill putt.  He needs to make this shot in (one stroke?)to win his bet with me.
junior golferI follow him around the green as he squats behind the ball to take a look at the slope, carefully calculating his shot. He is determined to show up the old man for the first time in our many years of playing together.

I hover around him – enjoying his tension.  I decide to give him a little lesson in the importance of managing his mental game.

junior golferI ask him: “So AJ, right when you take the putter back, do you breathe in or out or do you hold your breath?”  I smile, but he sends mental daggers my way through his eyes.

He is trying not to think of how he breaths and it throws his concentration off.  I notice his body language now reeks of tension and he tries to refocus.

Flash backwards in time for a moment with me…  I’ve been playing and teaching AJ golf since he was 3 years old.  Before that, I actually pushed him around the course in a jogger’s baby carriage, while I played the game.   Heck, I figured it was the only way I was going to get playing time in on the occasional weekends I got to play.  He seemed to enjoy it.

I’ll never forget the crazy things I did to keep him asleep or entertained so he stayed quiet on the course.  From a distance, I am sure the other golfers must have thought I was nuts doing crazy dance moves around my funny-looking golf cart!

Come to think of it, those times were very instrumental in my ability to deal with distractions and stay focused on my game.  Amazingly, I continued to play at a high level.

Did you know that Tiger Wood’s Dad purposely would yell and throw clubs in front of Tiger while he was swinging to teach him that famous focusing ability he is known for?

junior golferBut I digress…up until about the age of 12, AJ actually listened to me and would hang on every word I would say about golf. I started him with a very simple swing that served him well for the many years we played together.  He talks fondly of how we would drive the golf carts in crazy ways and always celebrate another outing at the course with a tall soda (and beer) at the 19th hole.

And then, something happened…AJ hit that age where he all of a sudden he “knows everything”.  His game started to get better and I could see a wall come up any time I would talk about the mental game of golf.  In his mind, it was just a matter of him playing and practicing more and he’d seen the beginnings of improvement from that formula.

Never mind the fact that I write a blog for over 10,000 golfers every week.  Never mind that I’ve worked with hundreds of kids and elite athletes from all over the world on their mental game. Never mind the fact that I took my own golf handicap down to a 5, shot a 1-under and a hole in one, all using my “without practicing techniques”….No, never mind all that…I’m just Dad and I don’t know anything, right?

Sound familiar?

junior golferFlash forward to that 18th hole, where he had challenged me to a high stakes bet. If he won, I would have to buy him some new Nike shoes and if I won, he would have to wash my car 10 times.   He really wanted those shoes bad.

I just grin at him as he walks all around his putt, taking an unusually long time to line it up. I know that he is a bowl of jello inside and his legs look like they will give out from under him at any moment.

He takes the putter back very hesitantly and leaves himself a 4-footer.  I joke with him that I am looking forward to a very clean car in the near future and ask if he will breath in or out.

He misses the putt and I don’t say a word.  We walk to the car in silence.  I know to let him process this his way. I turn the radio on in the car to his favorite station, trying to break the tension as we drive home.

A few weeks later, he comes to me and tells me he is ready to learn about the mental game and we get going in earnest.

junior golferI am happy to report that, as I write this, AJ has earned a scholarship to play golf at the college of his choice.  He is a fine, upstanding, moral young man, who impressed the college coach not only with his golf skills, but with his personality and character.

As parents, we learn that kids need to get their lessons in a way that works for them.  After working with hundreds of youth athletes one-on-one and online, I’ve learned it all starts with their ability to deal with pressure. I’ve developed a 6 step process  to Master the Pressure and it is one of the key elements I tackle in the Mental Toughness Academy online training.

junior golferJoin me in the winner’s circle!

Craig Sigl, the Mental Toughness Trainer

4 thoughts on “How To Motivate Your Junior Golfer

  1. Craig Sigl Post author

    Singh, it depends on what you mean by “motivate.” If you are talking about just getting a youngster to want to play golf with you, that’s easy. MAKE IT FUN to play golf with you. Don’t keep score. Don’t criticize him. Bring snacks and drinks. Laugh and make it an enjoyable experience and slowly introduce him to learning the game.

    If you mean how to motivate him to do better in golf (older kids), then watch this video:


  2. Lilia Robberts

    Me and my husband have always been into golfing. We have just adopted a young boy, and we want him to learn, and are hoping he will enjoy it. I love how you say that when your son misses a putt that you don’t say anything. This is a great way to be positive! I’m also looking into golf camps for young people.


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